i had sooo many of these similar feelings and experiences- “I spent ZERO time understanding what happens to a person after they give birth, which felt like an initiation to a secret society where what you go through never gets spoken about to anyone, ever, even when you’re asked.”

Yes, yes, and yes. this is such a huge problem IMO and left me feeling bewildered and somewhat detached from my baby. Also, I think “mother instincts” are a myth- we have to learn how to be parents, just like our babies have to learn how to be humans 💜

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Thank you for this <3

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